When He Noticed Me

He told me later that when he was in school, he would look at me from a distance. According to him, we had classes together and that is when he noticed me. When he was a Senior and I was a Sophomore we had two classes together. He noticed me, and I never noticed him. This fact alone would take me 25 years to realize what he was doing then he continued to do all those years we were together.

Mistakes at Any Age in a Relationship

There is a lot of truth to the saying you get wiser with age. It is also just as true that you can be wise at any age. I was smart in school, an honor graduate in fact. A person can be smart in school and on into college but that does not prepare you for all of life's experiences. If I didn't think that my story could help young girls and women out there, I would not put my life's mistakes out there, because honestly there is one word for what I endured with this guy for 4 decades, stupidity. Yes, I have so many regrets. This relationship cost me almost everything. One thing it cost me is the most precious thing in life. I hope you will read and learn at any age the do's and don'ts from my own personal relationship.

Number 1 Don't: Be Naive

People might read my first blog and think, this happened in the late 70's. What does she know about relationships in 2010? I can answer that question quite simply. My relationship with this man spanned 4 decades. In other words, all the way into the 2000's. Naive was what I was throughout most of my life with this man, this relationship.

I Met Him at Age 17

I met this boy at 17. I was a senior in high school. I knew his face and name from when he was in school, but I never paid attention to him. He graduated and I first met him one Sunday night at the car wash in our small town. He was 19 at the time. I was washing my car like I usually did after the end of a weekend of riding around. This was in 1976. In high school, he had a very closely shaved head with very little hair. He pulled up in a 1975 Blue Ford Bronco, which really caught my eye. I thought it was a pretty cool ride. I didn't recognize him at first, but I liked the vehicle he was driving because it looked like a fun vehicle to ride in. The reason I didn't recognize him is because he had shoulder length hair and a mustache. He was unrecognizable from what little I remembered him from school. He started talking to me and I had to re ask for sure who I was talking to. But I'll be honest at 17 besides the ride that long hair got my attention. It was kind of cool especially in the late 70s. I asked him what had happened to his hair. He looked so different. He said his father made him keep his hair so short in school. Now, he could wear it long, since he was out of school. He told me he worked on a farm with his father. He seemed to remember me quite well. Well, it was late Sunday night. I had school the next day. I said goodbye and he said would you like to go for a ride sometime. Loving the vehicle and knowing it would be fun to ride in I said yes.